Improve Social Skills – How to Gain Self Confidence

Improve Social Skills – How to Gain Self Confidence

I was born a loner and shy to mingle with people for fear of being treated as different person the way they look at me. I have to hide in my room when some visitors come to our house.

I considered myself an outcast, because I have no courage to face people. Although, even though I know that they won’t hurt me, yet deep inside me, it seems I always have to fear of being humiliated.

That was my life when I was still a kid until I reach college and even after graduation. I only have one friend who was so close to me.

This was probably because I was raised in the farm from a poor farmer and I devoted my entire teenage life in the farm during off school days helping my parents tending the farm and 5 days in schools.

It was really hard for me to adjust to associate with people, especially during social gatherings because of my sad experience.

But, later I realize I have to change course 180 degrees. A total makeover of my entire personality was the only remedy for me to gain self confidence.

Being a teacher, I initiated some drastic moves to make my changed personality manifests by way of the following…

1. Organized music club. I recruited some music lover students teaches them to play musical instruments and the school band came out as the best student band in our district. During town fiestas in our district, the school band was always hired to render music during their social gatherings.

2. Established school’s Drum and Bugle Corps. Besides the school band, I also recruited some students who wish to join the school’s drum and bugle corps.

3. School’s Newsletter contributor. Because of my interest in writing, I always contributes interesting articles on social issues, environment, self improvement, and other concerns.

4. Joined schools and community organizations. In these organizations, I was able to adjust gradually, especially that I have to participates in all discussions and help solved some problems that would crop up during meetings.

Later on, I realized that I am now adjusted from being a shy and awkward guy to an active person. I could give some advices when someone comes for help.

I became a councilor for those who have problems and sometimes the school’s guidance councilor would invite me to help him assist in giving advices to students who would become the school’s problem.

I hope this would help those who want to gain their self confidence.